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can't seem to reckon sr8, been penetrating for n-e kind of proof to any confront my bf, or believe in him. I would really resembling the latter but its not looking so good for him. we've be together over a year, i think he have a one night fling 11/24/07, roughly speaking the times he started showing symptoms for chlamydia, plus we didnt have sex until around christmas..after i kept commenting on it, during that time he mentioned his penis itched on the inside after he started getting the symptoms of reactive arthritis one of the symptoms, it got so doomed to failure he could barely way of walking so i made a doctors appt for him, a few days later he get the call. he tried dictum it must of came from the toilet at wk. he said he know it didnt come from me witch i was wondering if ibrought it to the relationship,but he would of showed symptoms a long time ago. right? i guess that explains the diamond earrings and ring for xmas huh? i really believes he loves me and i know i love him, but i want to confront him, pl help?
Answers: Well..
he's not accusing you of anything - and his emotional state for you haven't changed.
If he DID have a fling - he's be tortured for it - and lots of folks say admit it to your partner only make it worse - because then your partner feel inadequate (like it's something they weren't giving them) - I don`t know he feels that means of access?
I'm shocked and happy for you that he's not tossing around accusation and acting like an asshole...sounds approaching he really loves you and if he did - he's learned his lesson!
I importantly DOUBT that a man who screws around would shift home to YOU & list his symptoms & play dumb so convincingly...so I tend to believe him
possibly there be no affair - just a VERY strange situation that hadn't presented itself until presently - I've had roommates near chlamydia (males) and they didn't know for months and months - and the symptoms weren't that severe!
Maybe he had it for over a year
(any symptoms for YOU? My sister be once a carrier of chlamydia beside no symptoms & had no view until she'd given it to several people!)
Oh my righteousness! You definitely entail to get tested. The "toilet seat" excuse is played out. If he loved you, he wouldn't enjoy infected you. Both of you need to seize tested, but as for you, you really need to reevaluate this relationship near this, ahem, "man". You need to give somebody a lift care of yourself. STDs within women (especially chlamydia) can cause irreversible injury if it's not treated early. Go see your GYN, similar to now! If you believe this isn't going to occur again, you are a fool. He is sleeping around and bringing diseases home to you. He can tell you anything you want to hear (he loves me and I love him) in charge to string you along. Go get yourself tested, cart the antibiotics if needed as directed and finish all of them, be in motion back and attain tested again after finishing the antibiotics and kick him to the curb. You deserve more than this. If you allow him to stay, you are setting up a stencil where he know he can do anything and still have you waiting for him at home. No one deserves to be treated close to this. He will treat you however you allow him to.
I know how you feel. I know you love him and it is so sturdy to be going through this too. I have be looking into any innocent ways to pick up chlamydia but I have found no proof that in that is anyway other than by have sexual contact with another personality. I too got the toilet form excuse in (ask Alice) here is what she wrote "you can't catch it from a toilet seat" (read link below). Its knotty when you love someone to think that they could deliberately put your life and form endanger with out recitation you. You have to construct your own decision if u can forgive the indiscretion and verbs or you can break up. Unfortunately there is no comfortable answer in this situation. You own too confront him and if he lies than you can keep going knowing that he lied to u and that you don't hold real proof but you enjoy reasonable doubt. You can any forgive him and try and move on knowing that more than expected he gave it to u and your still not sure what else he could own given you from his indiscretion and forgive him and move on near your relationship or you can just break up and verbs with your natural life and find someone knew. I preference you all the best contained by this heartbreaking situation. Take care